The person who decides whether a coaching conversation was a coaching conversation or not is the expert— the person who is being coached.  

If the following is true after a coaching conversation then it can be accepted as coaching;

  • The focus of the conversation was primarily on you and your circumstances
  • Your thinking, actions and learning benefited significantly from the conversation
  • You were unlikely to have these benefits in thinking or learning within this time frame if the conversation hadn’t happened.

The coach respects that you alone are the expert on your life and circumstances.  The skilled coach focuses solely on your situation with the kind of attention and commitment that you will rarely experience elsewhere—expect possibly from your best fiend?


Michelle Clarke is a Leadership, Expat and Personal Branding Coach.

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